Learning to value and appreciate myself was a long process. Indispensable as part of self-love.
Why self apprecciation?
Self-appreciation is an essential part of self-love. In addition to self-compassion and the task of letting go of the helpers syndrome as well as being aware of oneself it is in my opinion one of the biggest challenges to achieve self-love.
You value your time.
Of course you should not say no to everything, but you should not say yes to everything. Weigh what you use your time for.
Plan time for yourself: (Me-Time). Every day a walk in nature, some sports such as. Yoga. Reading a good book, meeting a friend you enjoy together.
And everything that is contrary to that you can safely delete from your plan.
e.g. With our move back to Germany: I have a plan in which are times for sports / walk entered, there is the time for this blog and my group detained. Time for the move preparation and time for me and my husband u.v.m. And I hold to it. Do a lot in this way.
You value your body:
You probably found the following request on the internet:
Stand in front of the mirror and say to you: I love you
Sometimes I stood in front of the mirror and thought: Hey, this rounding here should disappear, because I have too much fat, the corners of my mouth, the hair ...... are you the same? Or similar?
I encourage you: keep going! It is worth it .. Over time, you learn to take yourself as you are. Appreciating the body because it serves your soul to experience. With all up and downs. Just as it is.
For me, the appreciation of my body is also healthy food, sports and rest. To a healthy degree and only as much as feels good to me.
I do not have to jog just because others do, a nice walk at my pace is perfect for me.
Food does not have to be vegan or vegetarian. Sugars in healthy amounts (please read labels) and meditation can be easy.
You value your being.
To value your being, it is important to know what you think is great about you. Take an appreciation diary and write down what you have done today. Every little thing.
This is important to realize what you really can do every day. That is more than we often think.
You do not bend for anybody
You have made aware of who you are. You know you do not have to live up to expectations, neither the expectations you set for others nor your own expectations of yourself.
What do others appreciate about you?
Let friends and family members tell you or even better write down what they appreciate most about you, your abilities and qualities.
Then feel if you see yourself exactly like that.
When my family wrote down 3 pages of my qualities and abilities I could barely read it, I had so many tears in my eyes. And I could not believe that this was/is me.
It took some time and I worked intensively on this topic until I could accept that this is also my truth. One help was the appreciation diary, another help my crystal skulls and that I had someone with whom I could talk about it.
With pleasure I help you in my Body-Mind-Spirit Coaching to learn the self-esteem and thus come into your self-love.
If you have any questions, please send me a message via the contact form
All the love for you
Kerstin Ajasha and the Crystal Skulls